Interview, Interview , Interview.
Connect on social media sites and BDSM blogs and connections. But when you find a Dominant, be sure to make an interview, first and foremost a dom should be OPEN to an interview.Just as I would want a new lover to be sure they are a good fit for me I want the same.
Rules to interview by.
1) If they start making demands before you have reached any kind of agreement or even talked about limits. - RUN
2) If they refuse to let you talk to others in their circles - RUN
3) If they are not open to asking questions about what your needs are and what you are looking for in a Dominant and being submissive - RUN
4) If their concept of a safe word is “there is no such thing.” - RUN
Simply put remember that your submission is a GIFT you give others it is not something that should be taken from you. Use common sense no different than a “vanilla” date, set your lifelines and make sure others know what you are doing. Take your time, to me the mark of a good dom is one that is patient and willing to wait for the sweet gift they are given.